If Nothing Changes

When it comes to our health, fitness, financial, and relationship goals, if nothing changes, nothing changes. So often I’ll have clients come to me when it comes to weight loss and fitness, and they’re so frustrated and they’ll say to me, “Man, I work out all the time, I eat great and nothing’s changing. And then we take some time to look over their diet or their work-out routines, maybe they aren’t doing everything they think they’re doing, a lot of times it comes down to not tracking properly or just assuming they’re doing well. 

It also applies to so many other areas of life. See, when we think about what it is we wanna accomplish, whether it’s our health and fitness, financial, whether it’s relationally, we all have things that get in our way. We all have challenges. We all have excuses. And the reality of it is, all of us, every single one of us could use any one of our excuses and paint them into a beautiful picture. Now, as you’re reading this you might think, “Oh yeah, it’s easy for you to say it, but you don’t know”. You know what, I don’t know, but I do know I have a couple of heroes, these two women were over 65 years old.

One was a widow and one was a divorcee. They spent their lives raising their family and they were not independently wealthy, but they decided it was time to do something for themselves, and they decided it was time to remove the excuses that had kept them from going for the things that they wanted in life. 

So they made a commitment to their health and fitness and learning something new, and they started training with me in martial arts. Now you would think that would be the end. But first off, in order for them to succeed there, they had to find a way to be able to afford it, so they had additional jobs outside of their retirement.

But it doesn’t stop there.

65 years old, I wanna say around the ages of 66 and 67, each of them went through some pretty significant health issues, one of the women had cancer. She ended up having to have one kidney removed and half of her lung. Now, if there is ever a good reason not to work out, being in your late 60s with half a lung and a kidney removed, I think go to the top of the charts in most people’s minds. She refused to allow that excuse to hold her back from what she wanted. When life says you’re at that age, it’s time for you to sit back and relax and blah, blah, blah…….

She was like, hell no. She was gonna go for it.

The other woman had severe back issues and needed back surgery to fuse her back together properly. But neither of them ever quit it. And 10 years later, they went on to earn third degree black belts. Not an easy feet. They were still working out multiple times a week, and they continue to go. They don’t quit, they don’t give up. See, I don’t know what your excuse or challenges or the thing that you’re struggling with.


All I know is if you want it bad enough, you’ll find a way. When I started martial arts at 16 years old, my family couldn’t afford to pay for our karate lessons and my mom’s rule was the only way we could do it is if all of us could do it. That was my my mom, brother, sister and I… While I could baby sit and afford to pay for my portion, there was no way I could afford to pay for all of us. So we went out and we found a family paper route. A one-time a week route that we all did together, and it came to just enough a month to pay for our Martial Arts classes.

If you want it bad enough, you will find a way, you will overcome your own excuses. So my challenge for you is to take a moment, go somewhere quiet and private, whether it’s today or this evening, and write down the things that are in your way when it comes to accomplishing the things you want to accomplish, whether it’s health and fitness, financial, relationship, etc. Be honest with yourself, don’t be like, Yeah, well, this is never gonna change. No, write it out. I’m not saying it’s gonna change over night, but the first thing you have to do is address the issue. If your challenge in order to hit your financial goals is you don’t make enough money every month, then write it down. You have to address it first, write down exactly how short you are every month, so that you can specifically pinpoint it. If your challenge is you wanna start working out more, but you just don’t have the time. We’ll… Where is the time going?

I’m not saying that maybe those reasons or excuses or gonna be bigger hurdles to overcome, but it’s not until you address them that you can start making significant changes to be where you wanna be.

So that’s my challenge for you.